This is Marriage

Podcat is slowly turning into a member of the walking dead, Big Dumb Rosie has a host of anxiety-related behavioral issues, and Ash is, well, Ash.

In tonight's podcast, we are basically just getting you caught up on dog training, Ash's inability to take Porter's advice and her progress getting ready for the Spartan Race.

We talk about some of the ways Ashley has been able to get out of her comfort zone this year, the importance of support, and how to deal with an unsupportive partner. Ash also make a big announcement about the next big phase in her progression (it's not a baby) so make sure to check it out.

In this quickie episode, Ash and Porter review finances and how they are doing in their goal to pay off their credit card debt. If you haven't had a chance to listen to the debt episode, check out "Bring Out Your Debt" and you'll know what they are talking about. From there they pretty much just ramble incoherently for another 20 minutes.

Ash and Porter talk about how Ash deals with being married to a man with ADD as well as raising a step-daughter with ADD. They talk about some of the issues she deals with as well as solutions and ways they've learned to communicate and avoid fights.

Ash and Porter talk about their wedding and what it cost and what they would do differently next time...not that there will be a next time.

In this episode Ash and I attempt to assuage some of the doubts that come with having a kid. Many people suffer from anxiety and the thought of having a kid does nothing but fuel the flames, especially for those who will carry the baby.

In true This is Marriage fashion, today we openly talk about something normal people are too scared or embarrassed to talk about. Debt. This was probably one of our toughest episodes to record as it was definitely our most transparent and vulnerable. We talk about how we got into credit card debt, what we are going to do to dig out, and share with you exactly how much we owe. It's a good un.

In this first episode of 2019, Ash and I are back and better than ever. Just kidding, we haven't changed a thing. Today, we talk about the highs and lows of 2018, our goals for 2019, the dangers of breaking promises to yourself, and how to live intentionally. We have both become huge fans of people like Ed Mylett and Rachel Hollis and are working to implement some of the things they teach about deliberately planning your day and being proactive instead of reactive.

This game of "Would You Rather" was touted as "The Toughest Game Of Would You Rather: Christmas Edition" Spoiler alert: it wasn't. But it was a lot of fun. Ash and I had a blast playing and its safe to say we really had a hard time staying on topic.

Ash and I took an online quiz so now we're experts on the five love languages and communication.

Spoiler alert: Ash and I both cry. Deal with it. Tonight we got emotional as Ash and I talk about mom shaming and the guilt most moms carry around. Ash talks about how she feels like a bad mom. At the end of the episode I made Ash come up with 5 reasons that she is a good mom. Tears were shed and I had a hard time talking.

On this episode of the podcast, we discuss SANTA!!! We talk about whether you should let your kids believe in Santa or not. Also, when/if should you tell your kid that Santa is a big hoax? Are there negatives to letting your kid believe in Santa? Does it eventually create trust issues between you and your kid? Will it give them a complex? We don't know. We're probably the worst people to ask. Anyway, we have a ton of fun and Ash is a major space case tonight. It was weird. Enjoy!

Tonight we talk about the power of gratitude to help get through a rough patch and the way it can change your outlook on life. We share 5 things we are grateful for (one of which was that baby boy didn't wake up and interrupt the podcast).

On this episode of the podcast, Ash and I talk about our feelings on Christmas. We talk about the appropriate time to start decorating for Christmas (the answer is after Thanksgiving and not one minute before) as well as our feelings around gift giving and the whole commercialism of the holiday.

On this bonus episode, you get a real-life-first-person-honest-to-God ghost story.

Ash is back and healthier than ever (although wicked sleepy). Tonight we are STOKED to bring your our first ever Halloween special. We share our thoughts on scary movies, our favorite creepy podcast, whether or not we believe in ghosts, and we share some first-hand accounts of the supernatural.

Hey guys, sorry to do this, but Ash is wicked sick (say that in a Boston accent for extra credit) and so we aren't recording a new episode tonight. So, instead of a new episode, we thought we would treat all our new listeners to an old favorite episode. The one where we talk about poop. I really don't know why everyone loved it so much, but here it is. Enjoy!!

Chores. We all have to do them and we all hate them. Tonight we talk about the division of labor within the household. We talk about our different philosophies on chore charts (for adults) and the expectations of what our house should look like. Let's face it, it is hard to keep a house clean with 2 dogs, 1 cat, and a toddler, but that doesn't mean we should be embarrassed about it. Ash and I talk about the fact that our house isn't what we want it to be and is a major source of unhappiness.

On this episode of the podcast, Ash and I talk about communication and the many problems couples have when it comes to telling people how we feel. Many relationships are ruined by poor communication and yet it is something that many many couples overlook. We talk about validating your partner's needs, how to show love, and how to talk about a need that isn't being met. It's funny, It's real. This is Marriage. Check it out, please rate and review!

On tonight's episode of the This is Marriage Podcast, Ashley and Porter talk about their recent trip to the beautiful state of Wisconsin. The Green Bay Packers. GO PACK GO! And the trials that come from sharing a hotel room with friends (Ash didn't poop for 4 days). And how hard it was to leave the baby behind for 4 days. Don't forget to rate and review us. Leave us a comment. Share with your friends.

It was my birthday just a few days ago and so we decided we should talk about the whole birthday thang. Ash and I have very different opinions on celebrating birthdays. She loves her birthday and wants to make it a party, whereas I don't love being the center of attention and could go without any type of celebration. We talk about kids and what kind of party is appropriate for kids and where to draw the line.

We aren't dieticians or nutritionists or doctors or even responsible adults. In fact, we are probably the least qualified people to offer advice on weight loss. That being said, tonight Ash and I talk about losing weight and the pros and cons of trying to "diet" in a relationship. We also talk about the resentment that comes when one person is losing weight and their partner isn't on board.

In this episode, we talk about my depression. And. It. Gets. Real. Depression affects (insert statistic here) couples each and every day. For some reason, depression and other mental health issues are still considered taboo and many people (especially men) refuse to talk about it or acknowledge that it is a problem. Tonight, we are open and raw and talk about how my depression affects our relationship and some of the less obvious side effects. Check it out.

Ash finally gets new eyelashes but thinks she looks like a prostitute (not there's anything wrong with that). Tonight we talk about what to do if you don't feel like you are getting enough meaningful time with your significant other and how to recognize when you might be spending to much time together \*yes, it's possible.

What age should gets get tablets or phones? How much screen time should they get? What are some of the pros and cons of giving kids access to technology? In tonight's episode, we don't answer any of these questions (at least not thoroughly) but have fun talking about it. We know that every parent is different and no two children are alike, so we don't try to define the right or wrong way to use technology in the home (we don't judge) but we have our opinions and we talk about how we will raise our son(s)

It is never easy to end a relationship. Tonight Ash and I talk about some of the signs your relationship has run its course and is no longer worth fighting for. She talks about an abusive relationship she was in and some of the things she wishes she had known. We talk about what to look for in a crappy relationship and signs it is time to walk away. Don't forget to subscribe, rate and review. We love you!

Have you ever been given some type of advice on how to raise your kid only to roll your eyes and walk away? Does your family love to tell you all the things you're doing wrong as a parent? Well, in tonight's podcast, we talk about the really awful advice people have received from strangers, family, and even doctors on how to raise their kids.

We talk about what we consider to be cheating and where to draw the line with "plutonic" relationships with the opposite sex. Can you even have friendships with the opposite sex once you are in a relationship? Also, we talk about emotional affairs and whether going to the strip club or watching porn is cheating or not. Do you believe that once a cheater, always a cheater is true? We talk about that, too.

This week's episode was an extremely tough one to record. We openly talked about a very sensitive subject that has caused countless fights in our home and hurt a lot of feelings–Ash's feelings towards my daughter. We wanted it to be open and "unfiltered" and were unprepared for the feelings that would surface. Guess it changes things when you are talking to an audience instead of just having a private fight.

We went camping with some friends who are fans of our podcast and so, after a few drinks, we decided it would be a good idea to record an episode of the podcast. Not sure that was an entirely good idea, but we had a good time and you get the opportunity to listen to 4 adults make fools of themselves. Enjoy.

In this episode, we talk about the different ways couples approach confrontation and argue. Some people, like Ashley, are pursuers and will fight until they feel like the problem is resolved (aka they won). Others, are more like Porter and avoid confrontation at all costs.

I'm not depressed, you're depressed. Tonight we talk about depression and its impact on a relationship. We look into reasons why men are so hesitant to admit they are depressed and even less likely to do something about it. We also take a brief quiz to self-diagnose Porter's depression (turns out he is...big surprise). Ironically, we have a lot of fun though it is a tough issue to tackle.

Tonight we had the pleasure of sitting down with another Ashley and talk about her experiences as a young mother and the criticism she received from other women. We talk about reasons why woman hate on each other and some of the "shade" thrown at moms. Don't forget to join our Facebook Group so you can stay in the know with upcoming episodes, ask questions, and contribute to the ongoing discussions.

How often should couples fight? Tonight we talk about the three main reasons couples fight. Can you guess what they are? We’ve had our fair share of fights about all of them and in tonight’s episode, we talk about why we fight and how we can be better communicators (as if men and women had […]



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On today’s episode, Ash and I get down and dirty and talk about…well, there’s no polite way of saying it-poop. It seems like it is a conversation most couples avoid, which means it is something we want to address here. When, if ever, is it appropriate to fart (break wind, pass gas) in front of […]



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In today’s episode, we talk about the “joys” of taking a 9-hour road trip with an infant. Porter manages to piss Ashley off and makes things weird. We also explore why so many parents give up living their lives just because they have kids. We both feel that your kid’s schedule should not trump or dictate your […]



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On this week’s podcast, we talk about our upcoming family road trip to Lake Tahoe and the crazy amount of stuff required to travel with a baby. This will not only be our first-time vacationing with my (Porter) daughter, but also with the baby so to say we are wound pretty tight is an understatement. […]



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In today’s episode, we talk about our eventful (for lame married people) weekend and Ash gets real when talking about her struggles with anxiety and how it has impacted all aspects of her life. This episode runs a little long, but we didn’t want to cut her story short as it is a serious issue […]



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In today’s episode, we talk about our eventful (for lame married people) weekend and Ash gets real when talking about her struggles with anxiety and how it has impacted all aspects of her life. This episode runs a little long, but we didn’t want to cut her story short as it is a serious issue […]

In the first ever episode of This is Marriage we suffer a bit of an identity crisis. Ash wanted to call it The Husband and Wife show (which was taken, sorry Ash) so that’s what we called it, but then after thinking about it, we changed to This is Marriage. After brief introductions, we talk […]



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In the first ever episode of This is Marriage we suffer a bit of an identity crisis. Ash wanted to call it The Husband and Wife show (which was taken, sorry Ash) so that’s what we called it, but then after thinking about it, we changed to This is Marriage. After brief introductions, we talk […]